Lets face it, our government (federal, state & local) cant even manage their funds s0 in exchange, the system becomes over burdened, yet the salaries of the government employees continue to rise. All this because the child doesnt know any better and is trusting and dependent on her. As it is I nickel and dime everything. My babysitter offered to care for my son (live there) while I stayed in the hospital both times with my daughter. Kids were not home they must have been at a friends house. But if the primary parent is mom. Stop using your kids to get brownie points and do the job. Oh yah, Im a female and see how these feminists have become the chauvinists (? In every state. When accusations of substance abuse are levelled against a party during the course of litigation, drug and alcohol tests are MANDATORY in order to prove or disprove said accusations. Don't give up. As of last week his drivers license was suspended and the job opportunity he had lined up has backed out because he cant drive for them without a license. Rent should be taken out of the equation,both parents need a place to live and see there children,to me this is the biggest flaw in child support,I had full custody of my daughter since 5 her mom paid me $150 a month thats it. Yes! In 2013, Edin coauthored Doing the Best I Can: Fatherhood in the Inner City. Edin and coauthor Timothy Nelson conducted in-depth interviews with 110 low-income fathers in the Philadelphia area over seven years and discovered the majority of the men were exhilarated to be fathers, even when the pregnancies were unplanned. Think about it. I continue to email my legislators asking them to make child support a shared responsibility instead of requiring the non-custodial parent to provide a government mandated lifestyle for the children (and by inference, the custodial parent) but the legislators are terrified of being seen as soft on deadbeat parents. If the custodial parent cant be bothered to document and substantiate actual costs then they should get either nothing or 50% of a basic formula for what the average costs of a childs educational and healthcare are for whatever age. How can i spend more time with my child when I am struggling to pay rent, have my own health problems that require medicine and try to afford all of that plus TRYING to spend as much quality time as possible with my child. Know that, your child in not a ward of any state, it is yours. I am disgusted with our family court system, I am disgusted with women who play the system and take advantage of their childrens father, and I have a new understanding why for some fathers it is easier to wash their hands of the entire situation and walk away. title IV-D of the social security act sad sad day. Not only am I taking your child away from you, but you now have to pay more for the right to what little time you do have together. You are only looking at it from your point of view . I just received notice in Ohio that my support is doubling. The mortality rate is three times as much sorry even womens mortality rate on the job is no better. Im currently saving money to take her to court and get shared custody, because Im afraid of trying to get full custody which is just down right impossible, which in Texas it damn near is. I have had custody of her since she was born. Lose a job? Common excuses for avoiding support payments include inability to pay, lack of accountability for the money, unwillingness to have the child in the first place, to protest visitation agreements, or a personal conviction that the amount of the award is unfair. Also I had a garnishment of 9000 held in limbo for 15 months where it was not applied to my child support for that entire time. KS I feel you. Fathers who feel like the rules are more about the. General Attorney office is a joke, and yes the system is full broken. THE SYSTEM IS OUT DATED!!! What noncustodial father would have been given this treatment? If his ex wife wouldnt have never married Mr. V and was an actual single mother with no father in sight, wouldnt she still have to dig into her own 140k salary to pay for her children anyway? nothing with the law is easy. I make $80k per year, take home $3,900 after health insurance and taxes. Problem is I havent gotten a single child support payment. I left because of the alcohol abuse, his nonchalant, laissez-faire approach to work, life, family and our relationship. The laws about child support should include some kind of work forlow for the parents that are ending up in jail (not prison) for back child support. Im going through this right now with to kids from different mothers and I dont Kno what to do or where to start il love my kids dearly and would give my right and left arm for either one of them when I went to court I was so nervous and ashamed I was all alone and the judge belittled me in front of all those people there was nothing I could do when I went to the court house that day I spoke to a lady and she gave me figures of what I had to pay as she did for everyone that came in ..all smiles and everything little did I Kno she was the one the would be trying to hang me out to dry! I tried that with my ex and he does not even want 15 days with my kid so he does not have to pay child support, he just simply does not want to pay if he could even at the start when we he watches our kid every weekend (now down to 7-9 days) since he start paying, does not even share medical bills as per our divorce decree. He put himself there by his own bad choices he should not be rewarded by lowering his,support to almost zero. I am literally having to take food from my work to eat. Just because you had a bad husband and perhaps bad father, doesnt mean the rest of us fathers are bad also! It was still considered part of his income. They used to call cps on me once a year, and when tha never worked, they waited for the paternal grandma to get a settlement from a minor car wreck so that they could essentially purchase my daughters, who became dropouts and my oldest a teenaged mom. He spent a lot of time with her and helped support her financially. I have even seen thia to be true with foster kids. While I try to build up time spent with her mom. One point that no one has raised thus far is the universal right to parent a child. Sounds like she works her butt off to give these kids a great life. If it is 50/50 or split depending on your state law and her income you MIGHT havre to help her otherwise. If the support order is for $1000/month that equals $100 for the state. Its because 2 people had sex and as a result they had a child. Which is fine but, they dont require the woman or custodial parent to work nor if she does work dont make her show her pay stubs. I work full time and receive a $250-300 check every 2 weeks. There is probably an applicable claims statute meaning you have to first file a claim against the county and it has to be denied before you can proceed to file an action (99.9% of all claims are denied by the county at the last possible moment). Well why did you sleep with them. Child support dont care about anyone they have no hearts they just want to be cruel to random people. What do I say? I pay $1,741 per month for two kids when the mother makes over $140k a year. Child Support is a SCAM! So with all of this, I still have to pay support. I love my child and I was at my happiest when I spent time with him. I cant imagine living on child support, its not possible, even living low income. That is the lie the court and its band of merry thieves in the Support Collections Unit tell non-custodial parents who most often happen to be fathers. Why hasnt anyone made a movie about this! The statistics simply do not support Roses claims. Grahams piece traces the history of the modern system and exposes how it is based on stereotypes and outdated notions and exposes why child support is so unfair to fathers. I have 50/50 so called placement. Please explain how thats supposed to work. Im really glad you made it a priority for dad to get his 50% custody. Ive always paid. Sad truth and when I think about it all.I just say its not forever and when my kids are grown they will learn about this from myself and hopefully not put themselves in this position. CS in my state is a calculation based on the number of overnights each parent has, their salary, if they have other children to support, etc. Hes tried to run over my kids and myself more than once. I also can understand how some of the women on her feel. In one well-publicized case, a father in Michigan objected to child support payments when his ex-partner gave birth after knowing he did not want children. Never, in any given month, did we spend over $2000 dollars to support our kids. Same holds true for adoption. Long story short: she made us move with her, which became an issue between my sister and I with her. And my 3 are the oldest. I have been paying child support for 16 years now always been there for my kids tried and tried to make a family life with their mother it didnt work like most but I pick them up every two weeks and once for a few hours during the week try to spend as much time with them as I can I also have two others and a step daughter so I have now but I love my kids they are my world but I have asthma real bad and it has gotten a lot worse to the point that I lost my job a year and a half ago so I havent been able to make support payments so I decided to sign up for disability didnt know what else to do so I called child support office told them what was going on they told me no problem just keep them informed and I thought ok sounds good about two months later I get served my my local sheriff I have a court case for my child support so I called the child support office they said it was a mistake and told me to just go it would be taken care of so I bring my letter from my attorney showing I am trying to get disability benefits well they didnt want to see it the prosecutor refused to look at it and when I told them what the child support office had told me about it mistakenly went threw I was pretty much called a liar and to shut my mouth so what other choice did I have I shut my mouth so when I went back for the second time I was very confused I had no idea what they wanted from me I asked for a lawyer before court proceedings because like I said I had no clue what I was doing and I was turned down immediately and then I was surprised when the judge ask for the paper of proof from my attorney showing I was currently signed up for disability I was speech less because it was the same paper I tried to show them the first time and they refused to except it and this time I didnt bring it I dont think they wanted it . 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